Turn FOMO to JOMO And Benefit
FOMO to JOMO, is it possible to turn fear into joy? Yes, it is, and if you are unsure of what either of the two words means then, FOMO stands for Fear of Missing Out, and JOMO is the Joy of Missing Out. I know which one I prefer, the one with the word JOY.
Acronyms aside, there is scientific evidence that the fear of not being involved in everything is real; with our current need to be seen to be doing things and then posting them online, we worry we will be perceived as boring or, heavens forbid, normal.
Admittedly since the beginning of the pandemic, not much has been happening, and those with social anxiety and the FOMO can relax a bit. Still, with things opening up again, there has never been a better time to learn how to turn FOMO into JOMO. It makes for a better life.
If you are a regular reader of my blog, you know that I have bipolar disorder and believe me when I say I have no choice but to miss out on things quite a lot of the time, and I benefit from it as it gives me a chance to recuperate.
Now, if we look at some of the science behind this, you will see why moving away from the thoughts of missing out will benefit you. According to research conducted on university students, the following was found:
The researchers found that the respondents experienced FOMO while tasked with homework or at work, and it usually came on in the evening and at later parts of the week into the weekend.King University
This speaks to me of the grass is greener thoughts. I used to get it as a teenager, thinking I was missing out on some great times; we didn’t have the internet back then or mobile phones, so I never found out about things instantly, and I also never saw images posted online of people having bags of fun. It is easy to see why those stuck at work or bogged down with homework would suffer from FOMO.
And it doesn’t matter what personality traits you have; you can still experience the fear of missing out. Carrying on further with the study, the following symptoms were noted from those experiencing FOMO.
(Students) … were more likely to report greater FOMO. It was also associated with the predicted negative outcomes, such as fatigue, stress, sleep problems, and psychosomatic symptoms.Psychology Today
So, FOMO can lead to mental health decline, albeit for a short period. This is why you need to turn FOMO into JOMO, and I’ll show you how you can choose joy over fear.
FOMO to JOMO
There are a few ways to benefit from the joy of missing out, initially you may feel fear, but the more you practice the below, you will find the joy in your current situation.
For one, your stress levels will lower.
Reduce Stress Levels
Fear will always cause us to release chemicals into our bloodstream, which triggers our flight or fight response. The chemical released is called cortisol, and it can cause a huge amount of health problems if this keeps happening, so you want to avoid triggering this every time you suffer FOMO. It would help if you learned to relax, as your social anxiety will lead to problems in the long run.
I always suggest meditation, but there are other tips and tricks when dealing with anxiety, and I have covered those in another article.
You can try meditation, and one of the most rewarding meditations is the Tea Meditation which will take you to new levels of relaxation. It is an active meditation, meaning you will be doing something rather than just lying on your couch trying to erase thoughts out of your brain.
Some friends have gone out for a meal, but you have to work, or you’ve already blown your budget; the stress could cause you not to feel hungry, but to reduce the stress, you need to ground your body again.
The best way to do this is by mindful eating. The act of eating slowly and savouring every mouthful will reduce your stress levels. If you cannot face a meal, try the Raisin Technique to reduce fear and stress.
Take Some Me Time
Those things you didn’t get round to doing during lockdown are the perfect antidote to FOMO, and you can really enjoy yourself by learning a new skill, taking an online course or even just running yourself an extravagant bubble bath. It would help if you replaced the fear with the joy of experiencing something new; it could be reading a new book, watching a film you’ve been longing to see, replace fear with joy.
Turning FOMO to JOMO might need some out of the box thinking, which is where being prepared comes in. If you know you will experience fear, write down a list of things you could do while you cannot attend an event. Use this list every time FOMO happens; soon, you will find you will look forward to your list of new experiences, and you will be living in joy.
I hope you can turn your fear into the positive energy of joy as it will help you in the long run and reduce your cortisol levels, leaving you to feel happier about your life and future.
Peace & Blessings