Many of us try to keep our mental health illnesses hidden, but this can exacerbate our situation. If you are feeling depressed, don’t be silent. If your bipolar is becoming manic, tell someone. Mental health may be a silent disease. This means you need to out it, tell people. Because while you’re silent, it can grow and fester.
Don’t Be Ashamed
There is nothing to be ashamed of; it is an illness. Yes, it has a bad press, but slowly, things are becoming brighter, and mental health is not the scourge of society as it once was where people were thought of as less human because of their disability.
Understanding your own mental health is important. It would help if you read about it, not necessarily from the medical profession but from fellow people who experience the same. This is where you gain the best advice from others who live with it daily like you. And you can help others by saying about your experience too; just helping one person makes my mental health problems seem worth it.
Of course, seek medical advice for diagnosis and medication and do not consider listening to anyone who promotes self-harm; this is not the answer.
Don’t Be Silent, Have Conversations
We talk about physical illnesses without a problem:
“How are you today? You look uncomfortable?”
“My back has been playing me up.”
“How long you had a bad back?”
“A few years now, I had a twinge once, never been the same since.”
If we turn this around to mental health, there is a lot of work to do.
“How are you today?”
“Not too bad.”
“Good to hear; you watching the footie match later?”
Nobody will know if you don’t mention it; don’t be silent even if it is an invisible illness; it is not like an obviously broken leg. You have to say what is wrong. The chances are, the interaction will work out positive in your favour. Obviously, you could get the ignorant phrase of “keep your chin up”. But nowadays it is becoming less, and people are interested in how you feel.
Sometimes I have found people may use a glib expression like the one above as they do not know how to handle a mental health issue. Hence, many people need to be made aware of the impact poor mental health can have on an individual.
Shout Out for the Youngsters
Some people think the young can’t get depressed; this is through ignorance, and as a member of Quora, I get many questions from teenagers saying their parents don’t believe them. I wish I didn’t hear of such things. But, parents can be out of touch just as much as grandparents. Nobody likes the idea their child is suffering, so they blinker themselves to the possibility to the child’s detriment.
If you are a young person and suffer from mental health problems, you need to tell your parents how serious it is. I suggest sitting them down and saying you have something to explain to them, and it is affecting your life so much you cannot live the average teenager’s life. Remember not to blame your parents; ask for help; it gets a better response.
Keeping Quiet Helps Nobody
For years I remained quiet for fear I would be stigmatised or that I would be viewed differently, and both did happen; I cannot lie, however, with experience and when you get to a certain age as I am. You don’t give a rats arse about what other people think. I wish all those years ago I had been more open; maybe I wouldn’t have suffered for so long without help.
Don’t keep quiet, get yourself a blog, use social media, and don’t take it to heart if anyone is negative; some people are just so ignorant that no amount of explaining will help. Let them be and focus on you and share your thoughts and feelings; you never know you might save someone today.
Peace and blessings x